If you’ve been married for any length of time and have a healthy relationship with your spouse, you have probably come to really appreciate certain things that they do for you. I’m not talking about big things or overly expensive things. Rather I am referring to the simple every day sorts of gestures that when it comes right down to it, mean more than anything because they truly show how much they care.
For me there are a lot of things that I greatly appreciate about my wife but there are three things in particular that on the surface seem completely mundane but really mean the world to me.
1. A thoughtfully packed lunch – I never used to bring a lunch with me to work. Either I’d skip lunch, or grab a bite to eat at the grocery store or a local restaurant. Somewhere along the way Monika thought it would be good for me to regularly eat a lunch that was somewhat nutritious and not over priced (and she new that I would never pack a lunch myself). So she began making me a lunch.
I really had a hard time with this at first and tried to tell her not to worry about it (I’m not sure she really knew how hard it was for me to let her do that). I’m a grown up after all, I don’t need someone making a lunch for me in the morning. Yet, after a period of time I came to look forward to opening up my lunch to see what was inside.
It’s not that they are extravagant lunches. In fact on most days they are probably no different than the vast majority of homemade lunches taken to work or school. But each time I open up my REI lunch bag and look inside I can’t help but feel special. The fact that my wife took the time first thing in the morning to make me a lunch is incredible and while they are not fancy lunches I can always tell that she tried to included things in the lunch that I would enjoy.
2. Treats from the grocery store – Along the same lines as specially made lunches, Monika quite frequently brings home some sort of item from the grocery store that she knows I will enjoy. For example, I have a thing for old school bubble gum. Specifically “Big League Chew” or “Bubble Tape.” It is essentially the same gum but in different configuration and it is such a kiddie thing to like, but it takes me back to my childhood.
Anyway, the other day I opened the cupboard looking for a little something to eat and there it was, a perfectly pink roll of Bubble Tape. In general I am a very devout mint gum chewer. I may enjoy the occasional cinnamon or fruit flavored gum here and there but when it comes to my everyday chew, it’s gotta be mint. I say all of this to point out that this is not a normal thing for us to have in cupboard, but Monika went out of her way to pick up a pack for me because she knew I’d enjoy it.
3. Freshly pressed shirts – A few months ago Monika took it upon herself to grab several shirts from my closet to iron. I can’t recall if it was because I hadn’t been wearing anything nice for several days, I needed a shirt pressed for a particular occasion or she just heard me talk about being tired of ironing my collared shirts. In any event she ironed several of them for me without any coaxing.
This is the sort of thing that I had resisted for quite some time (along with having my lunch made) because I didn’t think it was necessary to have someone iron my shirts. After all, I’m a grown man and am perfectly capable ironing my own shirts. I felt as though I would be taking advantage of her if I allowed her to iron my shirts, even if she offered to. I guess you could say that I didn’t want to be your “traditional” husband that expected his wife to do all of the domestic chores. Nevertheless that small gesture really showed me how much she cares and I always appreciate it when I find a couple of freshly pressed shirts in my closet.
As simple as these little things are, I look at them as incredible acts of love and I am reminded of just how blessed I am to be married to such a wonderful woman every time I pull on a crisp shirt, or open my lunch to find a favorite childhood treat.
Monika, thank you for the little things.
Posted on April 5th, 2011 by David | 8 Comments »